Author: Michelle Mamerto
Sometimes, we end up being around people who seem born to irritate us, or make us feel uncomfortable. They seem difficult to please, and they may say things that bring out the worst emotions in us. Here are a few tips of how to not let negativity get the best of you.
Remember that you cannot control people. You can only control yourself and your own reactions. Instead of giving attention to the negativity, focus on your own behavior and give your own goals and happiness some attention.
Choose your battles
Not every argument is worth a fight. Let the small stuff go, and save your energy for arguments that are worth your time and energy; things that make a difference in your life.
Set boundaries
If someone is consistently rude to you, let them know it’s not okay. “I’m not comfortable talking about this,” or “Please don’t speak to me in that tone,” are examples of things you can say to someone who needs to learn your boundaries.
Accept that the problem might not be with you
People who act, think, and talk negatively may be struggling, and it could very well be, that their behavior has nothing to do with you, or anything you have done. Learn to take a step back and see the situation with empathy, and perhaps you will be able to understand the person might need help, or some understanding through a difficult time. Being empathetic might also make it easier for you to walk away from a situation, instead of feeding negativity with more negativity.
Hang out with people who are positive
Talk to friends who will listen to you vent, be supportive, cheer you on, and will engage in activities and conversations that will calm your mind, and put a smile on your face. Being around positive people will do wonders for your energy, mood and outlook.
Practice gratitude
Practicing gratitude helps us think of the things that are right in our lives, and it makes all the small annoyances seem insignificant.
Don’t let them get the best of you
Remember, that the only reaction you can control is your own. Set boundaries, pick your battles wisely, and spend time doing things with people who make you happy. You may find that with positivity and empathy, the insults, back biting comments, and irritating behavior are not as effective as they once were, and the person you once thought was difficult, is no longer as horrible person you thought they were.
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